It only makes sense to preface this story by admitting that I don’t think a person can ever have too many candles. Some might call this a bias. I call it stumbling upon the truth, like the Da Vinci Code for people who dream of one day having a candle closet. Ok, maybe we’ll hedge and call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One might argue that, of the five love languages—words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts—a candle can tap into (or at least gently singe the edges of) three. A candle can be a gift, sure, but also quality time, since scent is so closely tied to memory, triggering happy thoughts of a time, place or person. Lastly, depending on how you spin it, physical touch. Doth a flame not burn?
Home fragrance has become its own all-consuming category. To that end, a candle is not quite an end but the means to it, the end being a home that feels distinctly grown up. So is gifting a candle not also an act of service?
Sophie Bille Brahe Nuage Madison
Cire Trudon Classic Candle Beeswax Absolute
Ginori Oriente Italiano Rubrum Cuoio Rosso Candle
A lot of the apprehension around candle gifting seems to suppose that the giver doesn’t have taste. Which could be a real issue. But not for ELLE Decor readers. Many candles are simply too desirable to dismiss out of hand. Moro Dabron’s candles come in a fine white porcelain vessel, the delicate form of which is inspired by 8th-century stem cups. (A great gift for any history buffs you may know.) They arrive in a substantive green clamshell box that’s too pretty to throw away; shoppers can also opt to include a hand-written note at check out.
Jewelry designer Sophie Bille Brahe’s Nuage Madison candle, available in the designer’s “Cellophane” opal pearl-inspired iridescent glass, is more sculpture than tchotchke. Then there are Loewe’s popular garden-inspired candles, which encourage mixing and matching in their colorful vessels and particular scent profiles—think mushroom, wasabi, and tomato—or Dior’s classic scents, which come in a “giant” size that weighs over 3 pounds and can be used indoors or out. If the recipient’s palette is more attuned to caviar than couture, Petrossian for some reason makes unexpectedly chic candles that smell like fruit and flowers, not fish roe.
Dior 30 Montaigne Giant Candle
Loewe Small Wasabi Candle
Moro Dabron Cecile Candle
Beyond scent, there is the primal draw to that tiny flame. As TikTok knows, gay men don’t do overhead lighting, and candles emit a dim, warm, and most importantly flattering glow. What dinner party wouldn’t benefit from a set of slim Diptyque tapers? Or votives in Ginori’s Oriente Italiano porcelain?
There are candles to help someone wean themselves off a crystal habit (a new line from Foundrae taps into spiritual tenets); candles that support causes (proceeds from Cire Trudon’s new beeswax-scented candle save the bees); and candles that say you sympathize with your friend who is a vegan who lives on the Lower East Side (Boy Smells’s reformulated LES candle).
What I’m trying to say is that a candle is so much more than a candle, and if you’re worried about it being the worst gift you’ve ever given, you might just need to take a look in the mirror.
Sean Santiago is ELLE Decor’s Deputy Editor, covering news, trends and talents in interior design, hospitality and travel, culture, and luxury shopping. Since starting his career at an interior design firm in 2011, he has gone on to cover the industry for Vogue, Architectural Digest, Sight Unseen, PIN-UP and Domino. He is the author of The Lonny Home (Weldon Owens, 2018), has produced scripted social content for brands including West Elm and Streeteasy, and is sometimes recognized on the street for his Instagram Reels series, #DanceToDecor
